Now it’s Kim and Kanye Sitting in a Tree: Implicit Egotism Strikes Again

from ScienceOfRelationships.com

Do you have a favorite letter? Is that letter one of your own initials? Well, if it is, you are not alone.  Where it gets even more interesting is that this preference may impact a whole array of choices, including who you marry. In Kim Kardashian’s case, she may have gravitated towards Kris Humpries, because they both shared the initial K. On an implicit level, this may have activated positive and rewarding feelings. Well, that relationship has come and gone, but in true implicit egotism fashion, Kim has since moved on to marry Kanye, with whom she also shares the initial K!    

What Kind of Sexual Personality Do You Have?

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"Are you a sexual person? (This is not a trick question.) Let me ask it a different way: What kind of sexual person are you? Or, put another way, why do you enjoy sex?"

Dear Miley, You’re Doing it Wrong

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Dear Miley, you’re doing it wrong. No, I’m obviously not referring to the music world, as you seem to have that figured out. I’m not even referring to the physical act of writhing around on a metal wrecking ball, although that does bring up some hygienic concerns. Rather, as a relationship scientist, I’m referring to your love life.  The lyrics of your song, Wrecking Ball, have been rolling around my head since you released it last year. And now, after almost a full year of marriage, I think I know where you went wrong. The trouble lies in your demolition-style approach….

When I Lose You, I Lose Part of Me, Too

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There’s no question that romantic breakups can be really hard. Losing a partner we’ve become very close to means losing someone who was previously part of our daily lives. As a result, breakups can undermine our ability to sleep and eat well (among other things).Research has revealed that experiencing a breakup has several unique effects on our sense of self or self-concept (i.e., everything that makes us who we are) as well.”

What’s Love Got to Do with Weight Loss?

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There may be a simple solution; research demonstrates that the simple act of looking at a friendship-based love symbol, such as a heart, can sway your appetite toward a healthy craving (e.g. an apple). “

Have To or Want To?: Deciphering Your Partner’s Motivations for Helping You

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Think about the last time your friend or romantic partner did something nice for you. Now think about that other person’s motivations: Do you think s/he did it for you out of care for you or out of obligation? “

What Attachment Style is The Bachelorette’s Andi Dorfman?

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"So I have a confession to make, and you have to promise not to judge me. 

I am totally “fangirling” over the current Bachelorette Andi Dorfman. There is something remarkable about her, and whatever it is is generating some polarizing opinions.

Oh, and did I mention that Andi was an assistant district attorney before she resigned to do the show? What more could you ask for in a lead role!

But if Andi is so great, why is she provoking such mixed reactions?”

Shopping for Shorts: High-Waisted or Daisy Dukes?

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"So ladies, how do you decide whether to replace your old shorts with the forever-sexy daisy dukes or the back in style, more modest high-waisted shorts?

Seems obvious, right?: The more skin the better. Before you head straight for the ‘I’m sexy and I know it’ racks, however, consider this: studies indicate that females showing too much skin can result in objectification, or the perception of a woman as a physical object rather than as a human being.”

Opting Out of Parenthood: How Couples Navigate the Decision to Not Have Children

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"But what about couples who make the conscious decision to not have children? Given the various pressures and expectations that conspire to encourage procreation, opting out of parenthood is a big decision for relationship partners to make.  ”

Is Your Partner Drinking Your Relationship to Death? Drinking Problems and Relationship Problems

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"Consuming alcohol can both benefit and harm romantic relationships. For example, drinking can be a way for couple members to connect—perhaps over a bottle of wine—and share their week. However, if someone believes their partner drinks too much, it can strain the relationship."

Science Doesn’t Hate Relfies and You Shouldn’t Either

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You know you might be on to something if Jezebel.com writes about it. That’s what happened to the term “relfie,” which we coined in an article last week.

We don’t mind that they weren’t fond of the term, but we do take offense to them misreporting the findings of the study.

The Top 8 Reasons Why Relfies Are Good For You & Your Relationships

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"Relfies are not selfies. In fact, not only are these terms not the same, relfies are much more positive. Whereas selfies may suggest a certain level of narcissism, self-absorption or cry for attention, a relfie may simply say that you value the relationship you share with the other(s) pictured."

Afraid to Ask Someone Out? Read This

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People in general tend to think that they are more likely to be nervous than others when initiating a relationship and that they are more likely than others to not pursue a relationship with someone due to fear of rejection.2 This tendency for people to think that they’re the only ones who fear rejection can affect their behavior and how they interpret the behavior of others.

Questioning The Romeo And Juliet Effect: Is Parental Interference Good Or Bad For A Relationship?

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"In 1972, a paper published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology announced scientific support for the so-called “Romeo and Juliet effect.” The basic idea was that the more parents try to interfere in a couple’s relationship, the stronger that relationship becomes—just like in Shakespeare’s classic story. Given both the sexy name and intuitive appeal of this idea, it is perhaps not surprising to learn that this effect has been cited hundreds of times in academic journals and textbooks. In recent years, however, several scientists (myself included) have grown skeptical of this idea because it just doesn’t seem to fit with what the broader literature on social approval and relationships has reported.”

What Does Your “Relfie” Say About Your Relationship?

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You’re probably wondering what a “relfie” is, so let’s start there. A relfie is a “relationship selfie,” or when you take a selfie that includes a relationship partner or someone else you are close to (like a parent and child). Relfies are those pictures that people take when they turn their cameras on themselves to show off their relationships that are then posted on social networking sites like Facebook, Tumblr, andTwitter.